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What you can expect here ...

 

We are all moulded by the circumstances in which we grew up and these imprints are usually unconscious at first. Nevertheless, they have a fundamental impact on our relationships, on our lives and even on our health.

 

Many of these imprints can be considered traumatisations and are ultimately caused by "violent" social systems. By violent systems we mean social "habits", from explanation patterns and beliefs, to procedures and methods, to structures, rules and laws, which cause coercion and dominance and thereby hurt people. These social "habits" are not "made" by anyone and each of us has internalised them to a greater or lesser extent.

 

On this website you will find support for your individual liberation from your small and big limitations, as well as support for the social liberation from the systems that have a violent effect on all of us. I assume that any such liberation can only happen non-violently, i.e. with respect for the needs of all.

 

(more on this below)

 

Seven Elements for Well-being and
Joy of Living in Everyday life

Cost-free online group to practice the seven principles,
necessary for emotional healing

For emotional well-being in everyday life

 

In these groups you learn and practice in a small group. You will learn and practice how to support yourself and others in transforming all discomfort of life into relaxation, empowerment and joy of living. Here, the "Seven Elements of Self-Healing", that I see in Robert Gonzales' NVC transformation practice and that are probably necessary for any emotional healing, are used as an extremely effective "method".   

 

Do you experience stress, frustration, anxieties, or resignation in everyday life? With the Seven Elements you can transform them and retrieve and cultivate your life energy.    

 

By practicing with other course participants you can also expand your support network.

 

The Seven Elements offer an effective practice for self-healing - and you can get to know and practice them from home.

 

What is the benefit of this online group?

- In a small group you can learn and practice to transform unpleasant feelings and experiences of everyday life into relaxation, energy and joy of life. 

- You will find effective and friendly support for processing challenging experiences - from home. 

- With this support you can integrate what you have learned into your everyday life and find more relaxation and satisfaction. 

- You learn to better understand how your feelings arise and why you do or don't do certain things - you learn to understand yourself better.

- You can enlarge your personal support network.

 

Three alternativ dates:

Wednesdays at 09:30 - each 1. and 3. Wednesday every month

Thursdays at 20:00 - each 2. and 4. Thursday every month

Saturdays at 17:00 - each 2. und 4. Saturday every month

 

Registration:

- In the form below, or

- here at MailChimp, or

- via email: info@GFK-Lebensfreude.de

 

You can find more information here under "Online Groups"

Continued from: What you can expect here...

 

Many of our individual imprints have harmful effects on our health, on our lives and on our relationships - usually without us even being aware of it. Similarly, many societal "habits" have harmful effects on all of us - internally they ultimately contribute to violence and crime, and internationally they ultimately contribute to terrorism and war.

However, we can liberate ourselves from the harmful imprints of our childhood if we become aware of them and transform them with the help of friends and suitable resources. And we can also dissolve the violent social habits by learning appropriate "non-violent" alternatives and practising them in our sphere of influence. In this way they become known and can naturally replace their violent forms.

Individually, through this release of our imprints, we can free our life energy and lead a more meaningful and healthier life.

Societally, we can prevent ourselves from being further injured by the violent systems and also prevent future generations from suffering such harmful imprints, and build a society and a world in which every human being can live a dignified life and in which violence is therefore no longer necessary.

Such a world would suit everyone and we can contribute to its creation by learning and practising non-violent systems that can replace the existing violent systems. In particular, six areas are important: decision-making, information flow, resource flow, feedback flow, conflict management, and support.

 

With my offers I want to help people to free themselves from suffering. I believe this personal liberation is intertwined with a social and global liberation because everybody who has been brought up in a society (thus every human being) has internalised the external structures of their society and thus decides and acts mostly unconsciously in accordance to these internalised structures. And thus contributes to the suffering as far as these structures are causing suffering.

 

Nowadays almost every society is based on the principles of dominance and coercion with the most important tool of control. Probably more than 99 % of humanity is living in such societies and everybody in the "western" world. Because of that the internalisation of the external structures means that we all foster mostly unconsciously these principles of dominance and coercion through our decisions and actions, even if we fight the external structures.

 

The internalisation of the principles of dominance and coercion works mostly through traumatisation and thus the liberation of these internalised structures of dominance and coercion requires an ongoing life practice of "shadow work" as Ken Wilber points names it. Without a practice like that all activism is likely to foster the principles of dominance and coercion and the external structures that are built on them rather than changing them. The "Seven Elements of Self-Healing" is an effective "shadow work" practice based on Robert Gonzales' transformation practice that I have learned first in 2008. Robert Gonzales' focus is on internal transformation and his work is based on Nonviolent Communication of Marshall Rosenberg.

 

Since 2011 I'm more an more inspired by Miki Kashtan's work on applying the principles of Nonviolent Communication on external transformation of communities, organisations and societies. So in addition to my work in internal liberation I increasingly focus on social change. Together with others I'm exploring and developing ways in the "Nonviolent Global Liberation Community" that Miki Kashtan has initiated and that she keeps nurturing (NGLCommunity.org). There we seek for ways to overcome the principles of dominance and coercion in the modern societies that cause harm and suffering not only for humanity. This predominant "type of society" is also referred to as a "patriarchal society" (all genders, not only men are fostering it!).

 

In the "Nonviolent Global Liberation Community" we are working to develop ways to realize the vision of a post-patriarchal world -- a world that is based on the principle of care and thus that works for all.

Further explanations:
By "suffering" I mean the discomfort that arises from "guilt and merit thinking" and that leads to new violence against oneself and/or against others again and again.

By "violence" I mean actions or omissions that are experienced as disregarding needs and interests and thus as harmful.

 

"Nonviolence" does not mean "fulfilling all needs at any time" (this might often be impossible at times), but it means: acknowledging all needs and interests at any time -- and acknowledging needs that we know is principally possible at any time.

The desire to respect all needs at all times is nevertheless a very high demand, because we can probably never know all the needs and interests that are affected by what we do or don't do. We "don't know what we are doing" because we're never able to know all the consequences and side effects of what we do or don't do - life is far too complex to allow that. However, we always can strive for non-violence, we always can strive to not-harm, we always can strive to consider all needs and for this we need a culture of openness and trust, so that everybody gets timely feedback if we overlook something.

The principles of dominance and coercion with their "tools" of blame and judgement (the " guilt and merit thinking ") make such feedback more difficult and usually even impossible. This also makes it more difficult or even impossible for people to (better) get to know the consequences of their actions and inactions and, if necessary, to find alternative courses of action.

For me, these considerations also show that non-violence is best possible in living communities, because here it is not only possible, but also necessary, to build up this culture of openness and trust. We humans are dependent on each other to compensate for our individual blind spots and to get to know the consequences and side effects of our actions better.

With my offers I want to support people in building up Resources (especially friends and effective "methods") that can build the foundation for a "mutual support group", so that everybody can build up or expand such a community themselves.

 

Together with others eventually I want to build up a virtual mutual support community that can support everybody's "mutual support group" to thrive. A virtual mutual support community that supports liberation by supporting personal liberation.